嫁の出産137 ～悲劇のヒロイン願望強めの新米ママ（嫁）の対応を教えてください～

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というのも、周りの先輩のお父さんたちから言われていた通りに嫁の感情のアップダウンが激しくなってきた。

いや、ダウンダウン、か。

以前の嫁は一応、キャリアウーマン的な役職にいて月に３０万以上は稼ぐ人だった。

そういう人に多いらしいのだが、会話のできない赤ちゃんと２人っきりの生活が続くことがストレスになるとのこと。

ボクも出来るだけ仕事を早く切り上げて、夜ご飯は嫁と一緒に食べて話せる時間を作るようにしているつもり。

しかしながら、会話の端々にトゲがある。

女子は多かれ少なかれあるのだが、嫁も例の漏れず、悲劇のヒロイン願望が強め。

自分が不憫な状況、不幸な状況が大好物。

なので更にタチが悪い。

少しでも自分の思い通りに行かないと、イコール〝悲しい〟、イコール〝不幸〟、イコール〝落ち込んで泣いて機嫌が悪くなってもいい〟となる。

そしてボクにブツける。

ボクはどうすることも出来ずに、ケンカとは相手を叩きのめすことだと思っている嫁の罵倒、罵声を浴び続ける。

ボクは普通の人よりも罵声や罵倒が心に響かない性格なのだが、それでもさすがに言いすぎだろうと思う程、言う。

嫁がこのまま罵倒や罵声を続けることは嫁自身の精神的に良くないことは明白。

誰か、同じような嫁がいる旦那さん、もしくは自覚のあるママさん、対処法を教えてください。


★★ENGLISH VERSION★★★
("excite translation" it's just as it is, so when not knowing the meaning, please accept it.)

◆Wife's pregnancy137　～Please tell me correspondence of a newcomer mama of heroine desire strengthening of tragedy (my wife).～

A blog is raised continuously for 2 days after a long time.
Because ups and downs of wife's feeling have become intense as it was being talked about from senior fathers around.
No, a down down. Or.
A working woman-like executive has the previous wife just in case, and more than 300,000 a month is earned, I grew up.
Such person seems to have, it's said that the baby who can't do conversation and the case that a life of KIRI continues 2 people become stressful.
I stop work early as much as possible, too, and I'm going to decide to have a meal with my wife and make time when you can speak in the evening.
However, there is a prickle in bits and pieces of conversation.
There is a girl more or less, my wife is an example, too, it doesn't leak and I'm rather strong in a heroine desire of tragedy.
The situation that one is pitiful and the unfortunate situation are a favorite.
So it's nastier.
I have to go to the concerned street even a little, it'll be an equal sign "sadly", an equal sign "unhappiness" and an equal sign "I fall, cry and am cross, and it may be.".
And BUTSU is kicked for me.
Without being able to do, how do I keep being bathed in abuse and booing of my wife who thinks a quarrel is to beat a partner up?
I'm the character booing and abuse don't appeal more than an ordinary person, I'll soon say to a limit still that it'll be going too far indeed.
It's obvious that one wouldn't like my wife for my wife's continuing the abuse and the booing just as it is mentally.
Please tell dealing to someone, your husband who has a similar wife or Mr. mama well aware of your responsibility.

thank you

嫁の妊娠136 ～嫁はお金のかかることが大好きだ～

娘は生まれてから３ヶ月を無事に過ごし、毎日おっぱいを飲んで遊んで寝て、またおっぱいを飲んで……を繰り返している。

帰れば嫁と娘が待っていて、ボクも娘とお風呂に入るし、楽しい。

しかしながら、先日、娘が寝た夜中にボクが家で仕事をしていると、今まで何度泣いたかわからない嫁がまた泣いていた。

嫁が泣くときは、自分の要求を受け入れて欲しいとき。

そう、とにかく嫁は、泣けば要求が通ると思っている。

ボクと嫁は付き合い始めてかれこれ７年～８年ほどになる。

その間、嫁が泣いた回数は、少なく見積もっても１０００回は超える。

でも嫁は未だに、自分が泣く、ということはとても重大なことで、私が泣いているのに要求を受け入れないなんてありえない、とまで思っている。

正直、嫁の涙には飽き飽きしているが、それを言うと大変なことになるので言わない。

話を戻すが、嫁が１００１回目の泣いていた先日、泣きながら言う。

家で夜に仕事をするのをやめて欲しい、と。

ボクは夜仕事をするとき、もちろんリビングの電気とテレビを点けている。

寝室には光は行かない。

しかし嫁はタラタラと言う。

「テレビの音がうるさいし、あなたがタバコを吸いにキッチンへ行ったりトイレに行ったりする音も気になるし、、、」

そう、何を言いたいかと言うと、本性では【引っ越しをしたい】と言いたい。

嫁はそういう場合、その理由となることを重箱の隅をつついて探し、さらには作り、自分が悲しんでいる雰囲気づくりで泣き、とにかく要求を通そうとする。

今でも赤ちゃん１人の３人家族なら充分なのだが、とにかくもっと広い家に引っ越したいらしい。

その理由もなんとなくわかっている。

赤ちゃんが出来たことで、友人や会社の人に見せたい。

での自分と赤ちゃんはそこまで外出できない。

となると、家に呼ぶしかない。

すると、友人や会社の人に、広くてきれいな家に住んでるんだね、と言われたい。

結果、今より家賃の高い家に住みたいのだ。

〝私は普通に暮らせればいい〟〝無理して見栄を張るなんてありえない〟などなど、随所にサバサバ感を演出したがる嫁なので、直接は言えない。

家で夜仕事するんだったら……最終的に引っ越しするしかないのかな、みたいな、引っ越ししたいのは自分なのにボクのせいということにしたがる。

引っ越しするとなると、かれこれ５０万はゆうに超える。それはボクが払うことになる。

はー、見栄っ張りで人にお金を払わせるのが大好きな嫁と結婚したボクの宿命なのかもしれない。


★★ENGLISH VERSION★★★
("excite translation" it's just as it is, so when not knowing the meaning, please accept it.)

◆Wife's pregnancy136　～Brides love money-consuming things～

The daughter spends three months safely after being born and it swallows up the breast every day and plays and sleeps, and drink the breast again……I repeat を.
A bride and a daughter wait if I return, and I take a bath with a daughter and am fun.
However, the bride who I cried how many times so far, or did not know it cried again the other day when I worked in a house at the midnight when a daughter slept.
When when a bride cries, I want you to accept one's demand.
Okay, anyway, the bride thinks that a demand goes if I cry.
The bride begins to go out with me and becomes for approximately this and that 7 through 8.
Meanwhile, the number of times that a bride grieved at exceeds at least 1,000 times.
But the bride thinks that it is impossible not to yet accept a demand though oneself cries, which means I cry in a very serious thing.
To be frank, I am bored by the tears of the bride, but do not say because I become great to tell it.
I correct a talk, but say while a bride cries on the other day when the 1001st cried.
When I want you to stop working in a house at night.
When I work at night, of course I turn on electricity and TV of the living.
The light does not go to the bedroom.
However, the bride says a thallacod.
"A sound of TV is too loud and I am worried about the sound that you go to the kitchen to smoke, and goes to the restroom and am ,,,""
Okay, I want to say that I say what you want to say with [I want to move] with the true character.
I find the corner of the nest of boxes and look for that in such a case the bride becomes the reason and, besides, I make it and cry by the making of atmosphere that oneself grieves and, anyway, am going to put a demand.
Three families of one baby are enough, but seem to want to still move into the house which, anyway, is wider.
I understand the reason somehow, too.
Because a baby was able to do it, I want to show a friend and the person of the company it.
での oneself and the baby cannot go out to there.
I cannot but invite it to となると, the house.
Then it wants to be said to a friend and the person of the company that I live in the wide, clean house.
I want to live in the house having higher rent than result, now.
It cannot be said directly 〟〝 where 〝 I should be able to live in commonly to show off at a stretch because it is the brides who want to direct a feeling of mackerel mackerel everywhere such as impossible 〟.
If I work at night in a house……Such as the kana that cannot but finally move though it is oneself to want to move; called my fault it wants to be decided.
If I move, this and that 500,000 well exceeds it. I will pay it.
It may be that it is my fate that married a favorite bride to let you pay a person money in はー, showy people.

thank you

嫁の妊娠135 ～昨日、ようやく嫁と娘が帰ってきた～

世間は正月気分も完全に抜けた昨日、ようやく嫁と娘が東京の家に帰ってきた。

ボクが昨年の年末に忙しかったので、嫁と娘はクリスマスから実家の埼玉に帰っていた。

娘がまだ３ヶ月ということもあり、正月にはボクが実家に行けば会えるし、と思っていた。

が、先日のブログでも書いた通り、１月１日の朝に３９度５分の熱が出て、根性で治そうと思っても治らず、３日の日に病院に行くと気管支炎だと言われた。

気管支炎なんて初めてなったので聞いてみると、簡単に言えば、【風邪＜気管支炎＜肺炎】となるらしい。

しかもボクは肺炎ギリギリだったみたいで、ちゃんとご飯食べて薬飲んで絶対安静だと言われた。

そしてまさか、医者が言った衝撃。

「娘さんがまだ３ヶ月なら最低でも１週間は会えませんよ」

クリスマスから会っていないのに、さらに１週間。

たかだか５日ほど実家に預けるつもりが半月以上になってしまった。

しかしそこで初めて知ったことがある。

実はまだ自分に子供が出来たという実感がそこまでなかったが、嫁が毎日送ってくる娘の動画を、夜中に１人で何度も何度も見ている自分がいた。

嫁と３ヶ月の娘に半月以上も会えず、正月らしいことも１つも出来なかった今回の年明け。

しかしながら、自分の中にあった父性に気付けたことだけは良かった。


★★ENGLISH VERSION★★★
("excite translation" it's just as it is, so when not knowing the meaning, please accept it.)

◆Wife's pregnancy135　～My wife and daughter returned finally yesterday.～

People have returned to yesterday which also passed through the New Year mood perfectly and the house where my wife and daughter are Tokyo at last.
I was busy the end of the year, last year, so my wife and daughter returned to Saitama in their parents' home from Christmas.
My daughter still says 3 months, and I can meet at my parents' home at New Year's and, I thought.
But even if I thought heat for 5 minutes was generated 39 times in a morning on January 1, and I cured by guts as I wrote the other day's blog, if it wasn't cured and was bronchitis on the day, the 3rd in a hospital, it was called.
Bronchitis was for the first time, so when it'll be heard, briefly speaking, it seems to be [influenza < bronchitis < pneumonia].
Moreover I thought that it was the pneumonia very limit and if I had a meal and took medicine neatly, and it was complete rest, I was called.
And that's impossible, the impact a doctor said.
"Your daughter can't meet for at least 1 week for 3 months yet."
In not meeting from Christmas, and also, 1 week.
The intention left in the parents' home for about 5 days at most has been beyond a halfmoon.
But so I have known for the first time.
One had had no actual feeling which had a baby to there yet actually, but one seeing the daughter's animation my wife is sending every day many times many times by oneself at midnight had.
You can't meet my wife and 3-month-old daughter more than a halfmoon, this new year when neither the thing which seems to be New Year's nor 1 are done.
However, it was good only that you could notice the paternity which was in itself.

thank you

嫁の出産134 ～嫁と娘と10日間も会っていない～

ボクは東京の自宅で１人、正月を迎えた。

嫁と３ヶ月になる娘は、嫁の実家に帰っている。

というのも、ボクが年末に仕事が詰まっていたので、正月も実家行くんだし、そのままいれば、となった。

ボクは年末のギリギリまで仕事をし、笑ってはいけないアメリカンポリスを見て、嫁に怒られないように年越しＬＩＮＥを忘れず、のんびりと過ごした。

そしてボクも嫁の実家に行く１月１日。の朝。

起きた瞬間、身体の異変を感じた。

いや、正確には、朝一の小便のとき。

そう、尿道が熱い。熱すぎる。

熱が出るときのいつものアレ。

恐る恐るう熱を測ると、なんと３９度５分。

ボクは平熱が３７度前後と高い方だがそれでもさすがに熱すぎる。

しかし風邪薬さえあればすぐに治ることは知っている。

貪るようにパンを食い散らかし、バリボリと風邪薬をかみ砕く。

元日は仕方ないので、２日に実家に行くと嫁にＬＩＮＥし、ガッツリ休む。

そして１月２日の朝、熱が３７度になっていた。

やはりやはり。これはボクの平熱。

嫁に、行けると思う、とＬＩＮＥして１時間後。

また尿度が熱い。熱を測ると、３８．５度。

なんだこれは？

嫁に、ぶり返しちった……とＬＩＮＥし、今日でガッツリちゃんと治す宣言をした。

しかし夜までグズグズと熱が続き、また３９度以上を記録。

フワフワと寝たり起きたりを繰り返したりしていたが、なぜか急に身体が楽になった。

熱を測ると、３７度。……なんですか、このツンデレ。

よしよし、これでもう大丈夫だろう。と、嫁の実家に行く準備を始めていると、ズルん、とまた身体が重くなる。

熱を測ると３８度２分。

ツンが多くなってきたように思う。

仕方がないのでいよいよ救急病院に行った。

そこで言われた病名……『気管支炎』。

？　聞いたことがなかったが、医者に聞くと、肺炎の一歩手前でヘタすると入院とかになるらしい。

そしてボクは一番聞きたかったことを聞いた。

「あの、３ヶ月になる娘ともう１０日ぐらいあってないんですけど、風邪とかインフルじゃないから会ってもいいっすよね？」

すると医者が間髪入れず言った。

「ダメに決まってるだろ」

治るのに５日～７日。それも、今回もらった薬がちゃんと効いてくれれば、とのこと。

効かなければさらなる治療に挑まなければならない。

最後に、「あの、ボクけっこうタバコ吸うんですけど、関係あるんですか？」

すると間髪入れず「ないよ」

はー、いつになったら嫁と娘に会えるのか。


★★ENGLISH VERSION★★★
("excite translation" it's just as it is, so when not knowing the meaning, please accept it.)

◆Wife's pregnancy134　～I don't also meet my wife and daughter for 10 days.～

A person of I met New Year's at home in Tokyo.
My wife and daughter who becomes 3 months old return to wife's parents' home.
Because I was filled with work in the end of the year, so when I also am actual Ieyuki and am here just as it is at New Year's, it was.
New Year's Eve LINE isn't left as I work to the year-end very limit and see the American police you aren't supposed to laugh at which, and am not scolded for my wife, with freeness, I had time.
And January 1 when I go to wife's parents' home, too. The morning when it's so.
The moment which has occurred and nothing unusual of a body were felt.
No, when it's Tomokazu's urine correctly.
An urethra is so hot. Too hot.
The usual that when heat is generated.
That I take my temperature cautiously, what and, 5 minutes for 39 times.
Normal temperature is about 37 times and the expensive one, but I'm also too hot indeed with that.
But when even having a cold medicine, I know to recover immediately.
Bread is eaten, it's scattered and BARIBORI and a cold medicine are explained simply so that it may be greedy.
New Year's Day is inevitable, so that I go to my parents' home on the 2nd, for my wife, LINE, GATTSURI rests.
And heat was 37 times in a morning on January 2.
As expected, as expected. This is my normal temperature.
That I think you can marry, LINE, please, 1 hour later.
The degree of urine is hot. That I take my temperature, 38.5 times.
What is it, this?
... and LINE which returned for my wife and scattered..., the declaration cured with GATTSURI on today was done.
But dull dullness and heat continue until night also more than 39 times are recorded.
I sleep softly, and I get up, and it was being repeated, but a body became easy suddenly for some reason.
That I take my temperature, 37 times....... What is it or, this TSUNDERE.
OK, OK, it'll be already all right with this. That the preparations which go to wife's parents' home have been begun, ZURU, oh, a body becomes heavy again.
That I take my temperature, 2 minutes for 38 times.
I think TSUN has become a lot.
That was all right, so I went to an emergency hospital increasingly.
So called diagnosis...... "bronchitis".
? It had not been heard, but when we assume poorly that I ask a doctor just before one step of pneumonia, it seems to be hospitalization.
And I heard that I wanted to hear most.
"I don't meet my daughter who becomes that 3 months old on around the already 10th, SSU YONE which may meet because a cold isn't infra?"
Then a doctor didn't insert and said room hair.
"It would be decided uselessly."
To recover, the 5th-the 7th. That's also said to be when the medicine I got this time works neatly.
When not working, I have to challenge further treatment.
Is it last?
Then room hair isn't put in.
Um, when can I meet my wife and daughter?

thank you